Some people are simply born likeable and they don’t need to put others down to feel better about. In fact, it’s not easy to choose the things we love about these people, it might be their smile, their charisma, their wit, or the way they talk, or perhaps the energy they possess and share forward.
Many people believe that being likeable comes out naturally and cannot be learned. Fortunately, this is a misconception and we all can control the effect we have on others, as it is a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ).
Here are 17 psychological tricks to make people like you immediately:
1. Spend more time around them
According to the mere-exposure effect, people like things that are familiar to them. Therefore, you should spend more time around the people you’re hoping to be friend with.
2. Emphasize your shared values
According to a classic study by Theodore Newcomb, people are more attracted to those who have similar attitudes to them. If you’re hoping to get friendly with someone, try to find a similarity between you and the other person and focus on it.
3. Positive mood
If you want to make others feel happy when they’re around you, you should be in your best mood and focus on positivity. Being in a company of optimists, we tend to become more positive.
Smiling when meeting someone for the first time helps them ensure they’ll remember you later. Many studies have found that we like people who smile the most.
5. Make friends with their friends
The social-network theory suggests that 2 people are likely to be closer when they have a common friend. In fact, all of us are more able to accept a friend request on Facebook easily after we notice that we have mutual friends.
6. Imitate them
This strategy is called mirroring and during the conversation, you should try copying their body language, gestures, and facial expressions. This technique is also known as chameleon effect.
7. Be warm and competent
If an individual is seen as warm and competent while carrying good intentions. It means that the person will easily be liked and trusted by others.
8. Display a sense of humor
Having a sense of humor is extremely important. In fact, more than 80% report that a sense of humor is the most important quality in a friend and partner. Additionally, a study of 140 Chinese workers found that people were less liked and less popular among their colleagues if they were morally focused.
9. Let them talk about themselves
Show them your interest and don’t focus on yourself only. On the other hand, letting someone share a story or two about themselves could give them more positive memories of your interaction.
10. Don’t be complimentary all the time
According to the gain-loss theory of interpersonal attractiveness, suggests that your positive comments will provide better impact only if you deliver them occasionally.
11. Act like you like them
When we find out that someone likes us, we tend to like them as well. Therefore, show them that you actually like them and they would enjoy your company.
12. Casually touch them
Subliminal touching occurs when you touch a person so subtly that they barely even notice. Those touching’s can trigger warm feelings towards you.
13. Compliment others
Complimenting is a highly effective social skill that helps to make people close to each other. Whatever you say about other people influences how people see you. In other words, people will associate those given compliments with your own personality.
14. See the other person how they want to be seen
The power of perceiving people according to their own beliefs provide a powerful component of intimacy. This is also known as self-verification theory.
15. Occasionally reveal your flaws
People will like you more after you make some kind of bloomer. Many studies suggest that pointing out our vulnerability boosts our attractiveness and trustworthiness.
16. Tell them a secret
One of the best techniques to build relationships is self-disclosure. When you learn intimate information about the other person, you will make them feel closer to you and want to confide in you in the future.
17. Expect good things from people
If you believe someone is going to be friendly towards you, they are more likely to behave in a friendly manner toward you.
Bonus – Making Eye Contact
Maintain eye contact 50% of the time when speaking and 70% when listening. Eye contact can also help you to create better relationships.
Try these tactics and you will be thrilled by the results.